5 Ways to Respond When Your Toddler Hits Another Child

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When your toddler hits another child — at a playdate, at preschool, with a sibling — the stakes feel completely different than when they hit you. Parents are managing three relationships at once: their child, the child who got hit, and the other parent watching it all unfold. The instincts most parents reach for in that moment are understandable — but most of them miss the teaching opportunity entirely.

Toddler aggression toward other children is one of the most socially pressured parenting moments you'll face. This video breaks down the five ways parents most commonly respond, which ones backfire, and the one response that actually teaches your toddler what to do instead.

Research confirms that children in the preoperational stage (ages 2–7) are still developing the impulse control and perspective-taking skills needed to navigate peer conflict — meaning they need specific, in-the-moment guidance, not just punishment (Piaget & Inhelder, 1969).

In this video: → The 5 ways parents respond when their toddler hits another child — and which backfire → Why the response order matters more than most parents realize → The social repair step most parents skip — and why it's the most important teaching moment → What to say to the other parent without undermining your child → The one response that works with your child's developmental stage, not against it

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