Talking Makes Tantrums WORSE. Do THIS Instead.

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Knowing what to do during a toddler tantrum is one of the most common questions parents search — and most of the instinctive answers make tantrums last longer. In this video, Dr. Lindsay Emmerson explains why the Escalation Loop runs on parental engagement, and gives parents the three-step approach that actually breaks it.

Most toddler tantrum advice focuses on what to say. This video focuses on what to stop doing — and why the absence of engagement, paired with a regulated parental presence, is the most effective response available.

In this video: →

• Why explaining, validating, negotiating, and getting firmer all make tantrums worse — not better

• The neurological reason toddlers can’t hear you during peak emotional flooding

• What the Escalation Loop is and why parental engagement keeps it running

• The three-step approach: stop engaging, regulate yourself, wait for the arc to complete

• Two scripted before-and-after examples (ages 2 and 4, including a public tantrum)

• The extinction burst: why tantrums get worse before they get better — and why that’s a sign it’s working

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